Love Can Be Like a Box of Chocolates

Kamryn Quote: “Love is like a box of chocolates. There are alot of different flavors to satisfy your taste.”

Some people say that dating outside of your race is a big deal. Some say they have never thought about dating outside of their race. A few lost souls may even suggest that it is wrong to do so. As a lifetime student of this thing called love, I say “it depends”.

Dating outside of your race isn’t as much about skin color as it is cultural background and behavior. If you grew up eating your mother’s fried chicken and collard greens, you may have a hard time marrying a woman whose idea of soul food is potato chips and chocolate candy. (Though surely good for the soul.) If you grew up in a culture where the father is the sole provider and you marry a man who expects you to work, you may have some issues. Sure, these things can happen between people of the same race, but the likelihood that there will be major differences in behavior and mindset are greater in interracial relationships. Sometimes.

Two people coming together brings two worlds together. People were opponents of interracial dating because of ”the children” but I suspect all that has gone away with the browning of America in most intelligent populations. Advocates of dating outside of your race have always said “we’re all the same, regardless of color”. Not true either. If you didn’t have a black mother, you are going to have to adjust to having a black mother-in-law. Trust me! Growing up with a black mother is no day at the spa.

Here’s the deal: Love is the only reason to marry outside your race. Love is the only reason to marry anyone.
Here are 5 reasons NOT to date/marry outside of your race:

#1 You want something exotic.
#2 You are fed up with the men/women in your own race.
#3 You believe the stereotypes of the culture i.e. “All Asian women are docile” or “Black women are sexual beasts”.
#4 You believe dating a certain race elevates your social status.
#5 You want pretty children.

Love is hard enough to find in this world of broken, bruised, and flawed people. I say if you find it, jump! If you find it outside of your race, then that’s where you find it. Whether you choose to date outside of your race or you just can’t shake the flava of your mama’s cooking or your daddy’s swag find love wherever you can. Don’t judge either side of the issue because it’s all a matter of perspective.

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